The fear of rejection makes sense. If we’ve had a steady diet of shame, blame, and criticism, we learned that the world is not a safe place. Something within us mobilizes to protect our tender heart from further stings and insults.
But this mechanism doesn’t discriminate. Our defensive structure not only safeguards us from the prospect of rejection, but also from acceptance and welcoming. It's a scanning antenna that, in working to protect us from danger, often gives false readings.
You may be operating with a fear of acceptance if you tend to avoid emotional engagement in relationships.
In addition to fearing rejection, you might be distant because you don’t trust that any connection or acceptance will last.
If you’re ambivalent about relationships, some part of you wants connection, but it frightens another part. You might be prone to fear and pull away at the first sign of discomfort. Overcoming the fear of acceptance may mean exploring blocks to receiving and examining core beliefs that keep us stuck.
This will involve a radical change in your self-image. Viewing yourself more positively, and the potential to love and receive love more hopefully, means that your life will change.
And change is often scary.
It also can be scary to accept ourselves. Practicing acceptance, embracing ourselves as we are, means not judging ourselves but rather honoring the full range of our feelings and desires. It can be scary to open up to our human hurts and sorrows and accept that it's all simply a part of being human.
When we move toward self-acceptance and we realize that we're a vulnerable creature, just like everyone else. Our shame begins to heal as we notice when it's operating and then bring gentleness and kindness to ourselves.
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Is a collection of Micah's views regarding men's skills in relationship and their ability to tap into their masculine frame.