Bitch to Your Buddies!
Do you feel like your mate is shutting you out?
Are you longing for connection?
This 3 minute read will transform your ability to communicate with your mate in a way that makes her feel loved and safe.
When that happens her desire for you will skyrocket and you'll feel the connection you crave.
Rule #9 of my six week program is “Bitch to Your Buddies”
Here’s what that means and why it will transform your relationship.
PROBLEM. . .
Women are motivated by success.
Imagine a group of women gathering berries on the savannah 10 thousand years ago. If they bring home poison berries, lots of people die.
Women are freaked out by negative experiences because it triggers their berry gathering instinct. It makes them feel like they’re going to die. (Dramatic but true on a subconscious level)
Men, on the other hand, are failure driven.
Men do not create or grow in success environments because they have an “If it aint broke, don’t fix it” mentality.
Men learn from failure.
Imagine a group of men 10 thousand years ago on a hunting expedition. If they fail, nobody dies (ok maybe one guy dies trying to kill a water buffalo). Everyone is just a little hungry that night.
Their failure breeds creativity as they make a new plan for getting that buffalo the next day.
For 100 million years, men have been tribal creatures. I don’t care where you go, in every single ruin around the world you see proof of a tribal fire where men talked about what works and what doesn’t work.
Men learn from each other.
Men see failure as a motivator.
WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT. . .
When you come home after a long day at work and bitch about it to your wife, you’re pushing her berry gathering button.
It makes her want to withdraw and kills her desire.
Bitching to women makes us look like children and women have this weird thing about sex with children. They don’t like it.
Maybe you’re not bitching to your partner. Maybe you’re holding it all in because you’ve heard, “Happy wife, happy life."
You grew up thinking, “If I make my mom (sister) cry, then my life sucks.”
SOLUTION
Bitch to your buddies instead!
Don't have buddies?
Join a group! Get involved with men. Join a pool league. Go bowling. Sit in a cigar room and have a scotch with other tribe members.
Start talking through this stuff with men around a metaphorical tribal fire.
Listen, you are biologically wired to do this.
I can hear you saying, “My wife is already pissed by how little time we spend together.”
Is she actually pissed about that? Or is she frustrated by the negativity you wear like a stinky Pig Pen cloud? Is she wondering, “Where is that smile he used to have?”
I guarantee you, when you draw her attention to the new found ease in your relationship when you start bitching to your buddies, she will push you out the door to make sure you do it regularly.
When you get your brain wrapped around the fact that you need other men to move forward, you actually start bringing positivity home. This builds massive desire in your woman.
Listen, I know this is radical. But if you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
Get brave and try this out.
I have 10 rules that transform men and the way women look at them in just 5 weeks.
The theme of these rules is to build desire in a relationship.
When you’re ready to do things differently and get radically different results, let me know. I’m here for you. I use this myself and the men I’ve helped are blown away by how well it works.
Are you longing for connection?
This 3 minute read will transform your ability to communicate with your mate in a way that makes her feel loved and safe.
When that happens her desire for you will skyrocket and you'll feel the connection you crave.
Rule #9 of my six week program is “Bitch to Your Buddies”
Here’s what that means and why it will transform your relationship.
PROBLEM. . .
Women are motivated by success.
Imagine a group of women gathering berries on the savannah 10 thousand years ago. If they bring home poison berries, lots of people die.
Women are freaked out by negative experiences because it triggers their berry gathering instinct. It makes them feel like they’re going to die. (Dramatic but true on a subconscious level)
Men, on the other hand, are failure driven.
Men do not create or grow in success environments because they have an “If it aint broke, don’t fix it” mentality.
Men learn from failure.
Imagine a group of men 10 thousand years ago on a hunting expedition. If they fail, nobody dies (ok maybe one guy dies trying to kill a water buffalo). Everyone is just a little hungry that night.
Their failure breeds creativity as they make a new plan for getting that buffalo the next day.
For 100 million years, men have been tribal creatures. I don’t care where you go, in every single ruin around the world you see proof of a tribal fire where men talked about what works and what doesn’t work.
Men learn from each other.
Men see failure as a motivator.
WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT. . .
When you come home after a long day at work and bitch about it to your wife, you’re pushing her berry gathering button.
It makes her want to withdraw and kills her desire.
Bitching to women makes us look like children and women have this weird thing about sex with children. They don’t like it.
Maybe you’re not bitching to your partner. Maybe you’re holding it all in because you’ve heard, “Happy wife, happy life."
You grew up thinking, “If I make my mom (sister) cry, then my life sucks.”
SOLUTION
Bitch to your buddies instead!
Don't have buddies?
Join a group! Get involved with men. Join a pool league. Go bowling. Sit in a cigar room and have a scotch with other tribe members.
Start talking through this stuff with men around a metaphorical tribal fire.
Listen, you are biologically wired to do this.
I can hear you saying, “My wife is already pissed by how little time we spend together.”
Is she actually pissed about that? Or is she frustrated by the negativity you wear like a stinky Pig Pen cloud? Is she wondering, “Where is that smile he used to have?”
I guarantee you, when you draw her attention to the new found ease in your relationship when you start bitching to your buddies, she will push you out the door to make sure you do it regularly.
When you get your brain wrapped around the fact that you need other men to move forward, you actually start bringing positivity home. This builds massive desire in your woman.
Listen, I know this is radical. But if you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
Get brave and try this out.
I have 10 rules that transform men and the way women look at them in just 5 weeks.
The theme of these rules is to build desire in a relationship.
When you’re ready to do things differently and get radically different results, let me know. I’m here for you. I use this myself and the men I’ve helped are blown away by how well it works.