Never Capitulate!
What does this even mean?
This is a simple one. It's easy to do and even easier to NOT do.
This 3 minute read will give you a new tool to reach compromise with your mate in a way that makes her feel loved and safe.
When that happens her desire for you will skyrocket and you'll feel the connection you crave.
Rule #2 of my six week program is “Never Capitulate”
Here’s what that means and why it will transform your relationship.
PROBLEM. . .
Her is the way most men think about sex.
I need sex + women have sex + I must discover what is required for me to get sex from this women + I will perform said requirements = woman will reciprocate with her intimacy.
The implied law of reciprocity.
"Yes dear."
"Whatever you want is fine with me."
You know you do it. I think we all do it. We say what we think they want to hear. We do things we don't want to do and don't ask for the things we do want to do.
I will do this for her and then she will see what a great guy I am and give me what I want.
Then we ask why can't she realize that this is not what I like to do? Then we feel that little tinge of resentment.
We start to push a little harder for what we want. She is still not getting it.
Why can't I get what I want?
WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT. . .
In the wild, the law of reciprocity and fair exchange is a obvious one. Most high-order social animals have some innate understanding of exchanging resources. In fact you could argue that pair bonding, family structure and social collectives are for the most part based on this shared exchange arrangement. So it stands to reason that in the course of human evolution we too developed this innate psychological wiring, thus making men prone to seeing it as the shortest distance between what we have and what we want.
This is what is called negotiated intimacy, and negotiated intimacy is never genuine.
You can fix a woman’s flat tire, help her out of a financial jam, fix her a nice dinner, give her the perfect shoulder to cry on, take care of her kids and listen to her drone on for hours on the phone, and she’ll still may not give you what you want.
The difficulties arise when we assume that negotiation is how we get to what we want.
SOLUTION
We have to build genuine, unnegotiated, unobligated desire.
She wants to have sex with you, she doesn’t owe you sex.
I know this sounds like bull shit. It will work for you.
You will find that if she cares about you she will come to compromise. She is asking you for it!
Get brave and try this out.
I have 10 rules that transform men and the way women look at them in just 5 weeks.
The theme of these rules is to build desire in a relationship.
When you’re ready to do things differently and get radically different results, let me know. I’m here for you. I use this myself and the men I’ve helped are blown away by how well it works.
This is a simple one. It's easy to do and even easier to NOT do.
This 3 minute read will give you a new tool to reach compromise with your mate in a way that makes her feel loved and safe.
When that happens her desire for you will skyrocket and you'll feel the connection you crave.
Rule #2 of my six week program is “Never Capitulate”
Here’s what that means and why it will transform your relationship.
PROBLEM. . .
Her is the way most men think about sex.
I need sex + women have sex + I must discover what is required for me to get sex from this women + I will perform said requirements = woman will reciprocate with her intimacy.
The implied law of reciprocity.
"Yes dear."
"Whatever you want is fine with me."
You know you do it. I think we all do it. We say what we think they want to hear. We do things we don't want to do and don't ask for the things we do want to do.
I will do this for her and then she will see what a great guy I am and give me what I want.
Then we ask why can't she realize that this is not what I like to do? Then we feel that little tinge of resentment.
We start to push a little harder for what we want. She is still not getting it.
Why can't I get what I want?
WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT. . .
In the wild, the law of reciprocity and fair exchange is a obvious one. Most high-order social animals have some innate understanding of exchanging resources. In fact you could argue that pair bonding, family structure and social collectives are for the most part based on this shared exchange arrangement. So it stands to reason that in the course of human evolution we too developed this innate psychological wiring, thus making men prone to seeing it as the shortest distance between what we have and what we want.
This is what is called negotiated intimacy, and negotiated intimacy is never genuine.
You can fix a woman’s flat tire, help her out of a financial jam, fix her a nice dinner, give her the perfect shoulder to cry on, take care of her kids and listen to her drone on for hours on the phone, and she’ll still may not give you what you want.
The difficulties arise when we assume that negotiation is how we get to what we want.
SOLUTION
We have to build genuine, unnegotiated, unobligated desire.
She wants to have sex with you, she doesn’t owe you sex.
I know this sounds like bull shit. It will work for you.
You will find that if she cares about you she will come to compromise. She is asking you for it!
Get brave and try this out.
I have 10 rules that transform men and the way women look at them in just 5 weeks.
The theme of these rules is to build desire in a relationship.
When you’re ready to do things differently and get radically different results, let me know. I’m here for you. I use this myself and the men I’ve helped are blown away by how well it works.