“For one thing is needful: that a human being should attain satisfaction with himself, whether it be by means of this or that poetry or art; only then is a human being at all tolerable to behold. Whoever is dissatisfied with himself is constantly ready for revenge, and we others will be his victims, if only by having to endure his ugly sight.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche The biggest barrier between you and the love you want, is an unloved part of yourself. As long as you keep shunning, criticizing, judging, and hating parts of yourself, you will project those unloved parts onto others. You will stay stuck in a vicious loop of attracting unhealthy partners who need saving. In short, people who are hurting and who are unable to love you or anyone else. Or, if you actually do meet a stable partner who is capable of a healthy relationship, you will reject his or her love. You will feel unworthy of them because you have not fully loved yourself first. Once you get clear on the parts of yourself you've rejected and you embrace all of you, That's the paradigm shift, and it happens quickly. Because once you have that love for yourself, you will have the ability to love and be loved. All it takes is a conscious commitment and some guidance to shift the unconscious programming that has kept you stuck in the same loop over and over. When you want to make the change, contact me HERE so we can get you started.
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I’ve said this before but it bears repeating. All of the things that you want and can't seem to find are in the discomfort zone. If you want something that you have never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. So…
That's a positive feedback loop that’s caused by not stepping into the discomfort zone. Growth is always a bit uncomfortable. Think about it like this: If you go to the gym and get in a solid, heart pounding, sweat drenched, workout, you know you’re going to feel it the next day, probably the second day as well. When you wake up on day two and you don't feel any soreness at all, how effective do you think that workout was? Our hearts and brains are muscles as well. So, if you are not feeling a little sore in your personal development and relationships, do you need to look at your routine? Learning how to be in that space of discomfort can be challenging but there's a solution. Contact me HERE and we can set up a call and get you into my coach program that will teach you the exercises and mindset to step into your real self and enjoy the discomfort zone. Though the nice guy may look looks nice on the surface, it is really a behavior to to avoid facing the unresolved issues in yourself.If you're always looking out for someone else, you've abandoned the needs of someone very important,
YOU! People pleasing keeps your attention focused outward and away from the awareness that will bring true growth. Ask yourself: "What would I be doing if I weren't trying to fix someone else's problem?" Chances are, having loosened the grip of people-pleasing, you'll have buckets of time open up to you. And a whole lot of uncomfortable feelings to go along with it. Without having to please someone else, you might feel restless and detached. You don't know what to do with yourself. Like many of my clients, you might have been out of touch with your true desires for so long that you don't even know what you really want. Find Out What You Really Want And Reclaim Your Life! Chronic people pleasing is an easy way to not face what needs facing: your dissatisfaction with your life. It's a perfect distraction, as long as you stay focused on others, you don't have to face the pain, emptiness, or disappointment inside. Attention! Listen UP! You can change that. You can stop living for other people and create a life that pleases YOU. And it all starts with one question: "What do I really want?" Contact me HERE so we can start the journey of finding you and what you really want. |
This Blog...Is a collection of Micah's views regarding men's skills in relationship and their ability to tap into their masculine frame. |